Education
- Finished High School, missing one credit.
- Got G.E.D.
- Attended The Art Institute of Indianapolis and became a Sophomore.
- Went back to college (Kaplan University) and am now in my second year.
Career
- Worked 5 years in a nursing home (Edgewater Woods).
- Got job at Community NorthView Care Center.
- Joined the Army.
- Began learning about Tattoo's and got an apprenticeship.
- Got a job at Treasure Point working on Graphic Design.
- Started doing a Demo job for Advantage Sales and Marketing.
- Started working for Source Interlink merchandising.
- Came back to the assisted living environment at United Faith Housing.
- Now working for big companies at IBM.
Love
- Met my first love, Kate in High School, and she moved. I did my own thing.
- Got a somewhat complicated relationship if that is what you call it back in 2006, made all the big mistakes that make me who I am today.
- Kate came back into my life and we have been inseparable ever since 1/7/2007.
- Learned how to keep a stable, committed relationship, and how to trust a female again.
- Got engaged.
- Got married finally in New York.
Family
- Raised by my mother until age 13, and then she abandoned my brother and I.
- Got to know my father, but raised self because he was an alcoholic and didn't care what I did.
- Pretty much raised my brother from age 9-16, and then we parted ways. Its not the same and we don't know each other anymore.
- I'm not close to any of my family members. I used to take the time to know them and associate them, and all I got was judgement for the lifestyle I live, you know, the gay thing lol. My family has given me a bad image of Christianity. I know I am a great person and I shouldn't have had to put up with favoritism and judgement.
- Decided to start my own family with my fiance' and we planned our first child- Skyler.
- It was great being a family, and my own bloodline didn't matter to me anymore.
- Had a mid-life crisis, left Kate and was on my own for 6 months.
- Came to my senses and begged for another chance to make it right and to be a family again.
- Originally tried to get Kate pregnant, but it didn't turn out that way and instead I got pregnant with my second son- Hayden.
- Had Hayden.
- Family was complete after getting married.
- I still don't have a connection with my bloodline, besides my children. I now refer to my brother as a sibling instead of a brother.
- Having my own family makes me wish my parents cared about me as much as I care about my kids. Even though I am grown now, it would be nice if any of my family would want to spend time with me...
Self
- Born in Phoenix, AZ.
- Lived my childhood around alcoholism and fighting.
- Broke wrist at 13.
- Moved to Indiana after my mother had an affair on my father.
- Did whatever I wanted :). (Not a good thing looking back.)
- Got drivers license at 16.
- Was on the Tennis team for a short while.
- Broke my wrist again at 16.
- Got first vehicle at 17 and my first job.
- Went Skydiving at 18 and got first two tattoos, and tongue pierced.
- Age 19, started drinking and got introduced to Weed and Pills. This year, was a very reckless year for me, It was the year that I clothes-lined my alcoholic father and that was the last day he drank and went to AA. I started dating this girl, and I was the most horrible person to her at this time. Met Jeff, James, and the other Hoodlums lol. I also stole Katie from one of my good friends at the time..Kerry. Got a seat belt ticket, and got in my first car wreck. Started dating Katie in the beginning of 2007, I was still 19.
- Age 20: Became in a serious relationship with Kate, became engaged, moved out on my own, bought first car, joined the Army, lost a lot of weight.
- Age 21: Got job back at Edgwater Woods, got a new apartment, got first kitten with Kate, got arrested and got a new apartment again and started doing tattoos.
- Age 22: Moved back in with Brian, got unemployement, went to a lot of concerts, started going to college with James, got a new car from a dealership, and got our first dog- Ginger.
- Age 23: Was doing well in college, doing more tattoo's, started working at treasure point audio, got pregnant with Skyler, stop using drugs, and quit going to college because I was falling asleep in class.
- Age 24: Had Skyler :), played a lot of Wii, became great friends with Leah, started working for Advantage Sales and Marketing, and Source Interlink. Broke up with Katie for 6 months, lost car, jobs, and lived poor for a while doing tattoos.
- Age 25: Put my family back together, got pregnant with Hayden, got a job at Harter House, got a vehicle from JD Byrider, more bills, laid low and played a lot of video games, had Hayden, got a job at Manpower. Cut ties with a lot of people who stopped me from growing as a person, got married, got own place to raise a family...
That is a lot of big things that has been going on in my life by looking at that. I think of my roots whenever I have a birthday. I think of my relationships with my family members, and each year, we drift further apart. My decision to marry Kate, was the final straw with most of my family members, and my "friends". Those that remain are indeed true friends and I am grateful for that. Brian was pissed, Colleen went off about it, Kyle was indifferent and didn't care, and I didn't bother to tell anyone else, I'd rather not get scrutinized by what makes me happy and the choices in my life. It's not like they are a part of my life to know or have it affect them. Big life events in my life, are huge for me, and I'm happy that I have Kate to celebrate them with and our boys. Unlike many other people in my life, she has been there constantly for me in the last six years. I'm going to stop wasting my time trying to have people in my life that don't try to be in my life without me going out of my way to spend time with them. I guess if I'm out of sight, I will also be out of mind. I believe I am a great person, kind, loving, generous, considerate, and I don't let you down if I love you. I'm a great friend, and I listen to people, I treat people like I would want to be treated, but I don't trust that easily. I guess when I used to trust the wrong people, being let down, just started hurting too much, so that part of me is still there, but I don't know if it will be seen very much so anymore. My next goal is to move far away from Indiana, and never come back. I personally don't want my kids to get attached to the same family members I have, just to go through the same things I went through, and never feeling like they were important.
It's amazing what one can do when they put their mind to it. I do it all the time. Everything I wanted I have gotten so far. I'm a person of action and I don't stop until I succeed. Thank you for taking the time to read this, I'm glad I interest you enough to read my blabberings..
Randi
